My very first psychic mentor, Pam, was perhaps one of the biggest gifts I have received in this lifetime. At the time she fell into my life I was terribly unhappy and struggling to make my marriage work. By struggling I mean that I was spinning my wheels as quickly as I could and still feeling as though I needed to do more.
It felt as though no matter how clean the house was, how well I cared for the kids,
how thin I was, how cheerful I was, nothing was good enough. Whether this was literally true or not, this was how I felt.
I learned so much from Pam that still, 15 years later I find myself remembering specific moments with her where I reached such clarity and truth that I knew
there would be no turning back. The moment I made the committment to learn as much as I could from this generous and wise friend all the rules changed.
As it is with your favorite or most influential teacher there are key phrases that will ring through your consciousness 'til the end of time. One of Pam's frequent
and enduring truths was this: "It's all about receiving".
To be honest, in the beginning I didn't know exactly what she meant however over the years of our friendship it became alarmingly and sharply clear that that which we identify as a problem stems from our ability or inability or willingness or unwillingness to receive.
Last year I saw client after client brace up to make strong choices to leave abusive relationships whether it was a marriage, friendship or job, it seemed to be the overriding theme for 2008. It was incredible to be a part of the process and amazing
to witness the blossoming which can only occur when one is set free from the bondage
of abuse. Many people are unaware that they are in an abusive relationship, as I was myself.
As clear as it appears to friends and family that we are being mistreated, the recipient of abuse cannot see the forest for the trees. Abuse clouds and torques
our perception of who we are and what we "deserve". We pray for a "good" day, or a "pleasant meal" in which there will be no criticism, or profanity and like a starving child take the scraps of the few good moments that come our way. In the end, unless a beam of light energy makes its way into our consciousness, we feel powerless to change our situation.
The angels are delivered but do we receive them? The angels to free us, to give us wings arrive sometimes unnoticed. Do we refuse their love and support? Or is it simply so unbelievable that help has come our way we have no concept on how to receive
or let them in?
Have you ever received a compliment only to reject the gift by arguing with the giver?
"No, I haven't lost any weight,I am not pretty, not, not, not..." Who's eyes were you viewing yourself through? We owe it to ourselves to begin on a very basic level to receive. My Mom always told me to "Just say thank you honey." when I was given a compliment. Our inner evolution shows up to the world vibrationally prior to us knowing we have grown!
We respond to one another vibrationally which means, if your vibration has shifted
and someone notices it, that is a huge validation to you! Receive it! Let it in!
It means that the work you have been doing whether outwardly seeking counsel, being
in silent prayer or any other method of healing is working!
The Law of Attraction says, "What we think about, we bring about." If your thoughts
have been on improving your life and someone compliments (notices your shift) that keeps the ball rolling! If you refuse the gift you have just taken two steps backwards. Hummm, let's see, what feels better?
Culturally we have been trained to be modest. Yes, times are changing and
our daughters will have an easier time with this than we do! In the mean time,
consider that your life to this point has been a series of lessons. Some of them we "get" and some we "get to repeat"! What's the difference? The difference lies
in our willingness to receive the lesson, to receive the growth and to accept responsibility for it all! It takes practice my friends, and we may well practice
until we are complete on this planet. I encourage you, today, to receive -
even the smallest validation whether it is external or intuitive, that you are indeed
loved beyond measure and greater than you have ever let yourself believe. I believe in you, your greatness and I believe in love. Love to you today and all days.