Saturday, December 15, 2012
Have you uttered your first complaint of the day? … It slips right from the brain and through the mouth doesn’t it? And once you’ve said it, it becomes your partner for the moment or maybe longer. Complaints are like an infection, one feeds off the one next to it. If thoughts become things then words are vows. Pay attention to your “always” and “never” statements and the blame frequently attached to them. In the spirit of the season, let’s take a day, like today and reframe the complaint. Even if one slips by, reframe it. This is about training the monkey mind that thinks because it has a thought then it must be right. We think the thoughts we have conditioned, allowed and indulged ourselves to think and subsequently believe. Reframe day. Take this statement, “I hate this furniture, I want new furniture.” And make it “It’s going to be so great when we get our new furniture.” Even if you don’t know when it will happen, or how it will happen, play with the Universe and see what’s truly in store for you when you remove your limitations of knowing everything that’s wrong by allowing space for everything that’s right and feels life affirming. Reframe your complaints and replace the harsh vows of lack with possibility statements of love. Kids play “what if” all the time, let’s do that today. What if? What if we remember that we are the masters of our destiny and we’re letting ourselves think in a calmer state of ease and acceptance? We may not believe our words, but remember that our words are our vows and we owe it to ourselves to be faithful and believe in the “what if.” What if it’s true, that someone loves you truly and…what if you let that person be you? <3
A normal morning does not find me in conversation with my guides as I apply my make-up. Today however is different, this is a big day they tell me, let people know! The pressure of the holidays brings about so much tension within families and friends. There is a strong urging today to put your hand out and apologize. For some to apologize is to admit wrong doing however, it is also taking control of a situation that has spun out of control. Here are some possible opening lines- “I’m sorry that…” “If I could do that over I would…” “I want to understand what happened so that we can avoid it in the future…” “I didn’t realize…” “Can we start over?” For whatever it is worth our family on the other side is urging us to extend your hand and ask to make peace.
Is it true that your family has "grown apart" and struggles with dysfunction? Alienation? Estrangement? If so, you may take comfort, you are not alone. Recently I have had the pleasure of meeting with many open and wounded souls. Our life paths seem to have hit a cross-road where business as usual no longer exists. Siblings that have always been close aren't speaking to one another. The manifestation of having controlling or equally wounded parents is playing out in the breakdown of what we felt we could always rely on, our family. What appears to be a breakdown is anything but. Chaos looms large in our lives that feel as though they are spinning out of control and as we struggle to grasp that one thread of hope, that too is taken from us. It’s almost as though we are being picked up, turned around and being sent in a whole new direction. Guess what? That’s exactly what’s happening! We incarnate to learn, feel and grow. Sometimes we become so entrenched in our stories and behaviors that we lose track of our souls desire to evolve. At times like these, the Universal God takes the wheel and steers us back on track to have the experiences that will fulfill our spirits request from this incarnation. They are uncomfortable and stretch us to a point we feel we can no longer endure and then, guess what? We make it. We come through the pain and whether we have the original people surrounding us or we have found new family to love us through, we come through it. You will come through it. This is a time to let go and truly, let God. The ego’s path is narrow, God’s path for us is unlimited. Trust that those who are not currently in your life supporting you are out fighting their own evolution. For today, give up the fight. Let go of the reins and you will find this chapter can go much more quickly when we live in faith. I believe in you and your souls desire to pass through this chapter with a greater understanding of it’s importance. God bless us, every one. <3
This week I met with a young woman, 20 years old. She’s had a really rough year starting with a friend committing suicide. She’s experiencing what is labeled as mental illness as a result of the trauma. At 20 she is incredibly emotionally articulate and sees the world through a wide angel lens. She’s extremely bright, intelligent and for the moment, spiritually and emotionally fragile. I’ve known her for only a few months but have seen her as open and willing to bring herself back to optimum good health. Some are content to take medication and see their therapist once a week but not so for Mel. She is searching for answers and information to support her on her healing path. When she arrived she immediately told me that the reason she scheduled was because she had a session with a Medical Intuitive and was so unsettled after the experience. I sensed that she was worried I may be upset that she went to another psychic but nothing could be further from the truth. My goal is to empower people with their own ability to read their lives and situations so to me, it’s healthy to seek out more help. Unfortunately what Mel received was more a curse than a healing. The phone reading she had was damaging to the level of stability she had recently achieved. The woman told Mel that during the night she has entities around her, a parasite stuck to her and that the medications she is taking are going to cause her brain damage. I asked her if she was required to schedule subsequent sessions with the woman for “full healing” and she said no, but she was supposed to go to her website and purchase supplements. Furious? I was too. While I don’t want to acknowledge it, there are vultures out there waiting to prey on the vulnerable and needy. We took time to look at the possibility that Mel may have felt somewhere within herself that this information was slightly malicious and untrue. We talked about building a tool box for her so that she could check in and determine if the information she is hearing resonates with her. So open and willing, Mel asked question after question and I could see her becoming empowered as she understood each piece of the puzzle she was assembling. She loved that she has the ability to tune in to herself and would begin working on trusting what she receives. Mel left with new tools to support her forward. We all too quickly surrender our personal authority to someone we perceive as above us, and this is not wrong as it comes from a place of innocence. In our innocence we seek peace and we send our spirits on missions to find it. The reminder here is to check-in with your heart. When someone delivers news that disempowers you, you must take the time to decide if it is an accurate read for you. Many “healers” are quick to push their opinions on you as a psychic read. This woman may have been anti-pharmaceuticals and used her opinion to develop the “reading” to get Mel off her medications. I’ve heard so many stories like this over the years, it’s disturbing. Please, take your time, and with care decide what information you will anchor your soul to. What we hear is as important as we allow it to be. Filter what you hear and as always, listen to your heart.
Sunday, February 19, 2012
This five decade journey through earth school has been a series of twists and turns. These are hairpin turns going back into situations that are too familiar! We twist back and forth into circumstances we have just dealt with. Next we are confronted with the same set of characters with different names and faces.
If you were raised by a controlling parent, are you surprised to find yourself married to a control freak? Are you surprised when you divorce that person and your child treats you in the manner they have witnessed through their life? Perhaps after you come to terms with that you realize that your boss has been using you for years? Surprised may not be the right word, maybe you feel perplexed, cursed or doomed to be a doormat for the all of your lifetime! Fear not!
The first teachers we have come in the form of our parents. Aren’t we surprised when we become parents we realize that there is no manual? We tenderly love the babies, care for and nurture them with all our baggage… Oh wait, did I say that? Oops! Generation upon generation we pass certain inherited traits on to our children in complete innocence.
The level of security we feel as children relates to being held close, watched over and having our basic needs met. As adults we position ourselves to experience these things by getting into relationships, jobs and partnerships. As we work our way into this perceived state of safety and comfort there is discomfort. It is as if we are working our way through the neck of a bottle (not unlike the birth canal) to receive our first breath. Independence and responsibility are great freedoms we enjoy by working our way out. Tricky thing though, sometimes when we are working our way to achieve these external measures of comfort, we are working our way into the bottle not out.
The inside of the bottle initially feels safe and secure. Look around, it’s like the Genie’s bottle, it’s got comfort and warmth, it could be lavishly decorated with beautiful things that make you feel successful. Ah, I have arrived. The sense of accomplishment lasts until you realize you are in the bottle with that old cast of characters we mentioned earlier making your confinement anything but comfortable.
After all the effort to arrive, we realize that old saying is true, “wherever I go, there I am.” Although at first glance we say, why am I still dealing with them? With that-control, disrespect, abuse, choose your kryptonite…why? We affirm that there is something wrong with us that we continually choose the same type of person or situation that traps us. We’re in that bottle we asked for but there’s a damn cork on the top! Are you telling me I have to work my way back up through the neck of the bottle to escape this mess?
Yes, yes I am. If upon arriving at your place of comfort you are met with the same situation that you were working away from then by all means, begin your journey back out, here’s why; As children we learn that comfort and security lies in the hands of other people. We mistakenly take this belief into adulthood where we believe that the right husband/wife/boss/partner will give us the strength/security/adoration we received from our parents. The truth is, we are granted the privilege of making choices that affirm there is not something wrong with us! Not even that there is something wrong with them! The truth is that we are freedom seeking beings. Attachment to another person as our source of strength or stability is the opposite of freedom.
Each time we place our security in the hands of anyone else, we are disappointed. Deeply disappointed. This says nothing about them and their willingness and ability to fulfill our every need it does say everything about the displacement of responsibility. Anytime we surrender the responsibility of our happiness and destiny to a completely separate person we are making the trek into the bottle. Trust me, birth only goes one way-and that is out.
The tools you need and the knowledge you uncover come in the neck of the bottle. The passage feels narrow and dark but you are not alone. You are never alone.
In the tunnel we pray and beg for answers and guidance. The answers do not come when we are frantic. The questions are answered when we stretch beyond our comfort zone to reach out to the world to ask for help. When we take action on our own behalf the divine spark of your soul is lit! Call it God, the Universe, Goddess, High Self, which ever you choose. Our divine source feeds us the knowledge and wisdom when we are at our hungriest, when it will satiate us the most. It is then when we are rich. When we are fed by God we have received the blessing to expand beyond the perception that confinement is security.
Each journey in and out of the bottle we encounter those characters we have met in and through our whole lives. Each time we make the passage we take new information on what worked best to remain standing in the face of our kryptonite. Notice that the lessons being delivered come from a person who is further out in your universe. In other words, it is no longer a parent or spouse that antagonizes you it is a co-worker or boss. You can determine your standing by noticing how far removed you are from the source of the behavior.
This is life friends. Journeys in and out of the bottle epitomize our fluctuation between security and seeking. In our desire for freedom we may make a trip back into the bottle to remember that freedom lies in our ability to stand alone and choose our next step. Those folks that can take the journey through the neck of the bottle appreciate the wealth of accepting complete responsibility for creating life as a glorious and divine expression of you.
May you be blessed with true partners on your journey through the neck of the bottle.